Love Lust Relationships and Self Image

When it comes to being with someone you’re bound to have some sort of attraction that goes with it. Be it their hair, their eyes that you just can’t get enough of or even the way they talk with and to you that just drives you wild with desire. Even the most intellectual person is caught off guard by these emotions. At least that is what most are drawn to think. But in the same note you could have no true feelings for this person at all. You could be dealing with a case of a certain primal urge called lust.  

So are you in love, or is it lust? Truth be told both love and lust are inextricably intertwined. To some lust is a true ground zero for hormones. It is a time at which two sexes are bought together by sheer attraction. In fact with out lust I doubt highly that love would even have a chance to prosper at all. You see lust in ways is the driving force of the sexual imperative that bridges the gap between the almost incompatible brain styles of both man and woman. So lust could be thought of as one end of a very broad continuum. This may or may not culminate in romantic love.  

But when it comes to true love that is where you see a change. You see love is one of the most ennobling when it comes to human emotion. It changes a person in ways that most can’t convey with words. It’s even been said to make a male capable of “wanting to be a better man”. As it has been said many times before “many have fought wars over lust, but they make homes and families for love.”  

There is a true danger when it comes to love and lust. It is a game that if engaged in may lead to a broken heart, jealousy or even death. So how does one know if they are truly in love or not. These ground rules have saved many the connoisseur time and time again. First off when it comes to lusting after another, your totally focused on their body and want nothing but to be with them for reasons other than their body. With lust you will find yourself paying no attention to what they have to say. The person will also become some what of a booty call (yes even men can be sexploited by women). And you will know most of all by the way you react after the deed is done. Due to the fact that you will find the fastest way out (Good bye to cuddling or just talking). These are perfect examples of how you know of your lustful nature. So be wary, because for some I know this must be how you are seen in that persons eyes. So be smart and run. Unless you are a glutton for punishment. 

Now their may be lust in a relationship. But there is a feeling that transcends this far beyond ones wildest expectations. And this my friends is love. So how do you know that you are truly in love? Well let me tell you. First off you both have a great chemistry. You actually want to hear about their day and will listen or talk for hours without fail. You actually want to introduce them to your family and have no shame in it. And for once in your life you can see an actual future with that person instead of a bed with pulled shades and a quick exit to follow. These are all great indicators that you have achieved the unthinkable. You may actually have found the one.  

So when it comes down to it lust is more short term fun but love is the one and only long haul. And even though the two sometimes masquerade as each other, you should be able to tell the difference. Wes Brenan a student at NECC said it best when he stated that “Love cannot exist without a degree of lust. Knowing the line between can save you from a lot of heartache. And from breaking hearts.” So with this information maybe you just will and save yourself the heart ache and pain. But at the same time who knows love is blind they say and some prefer walking into walls.